"She"

  How does one remove toxicity from their life ? When is it OK to  give up? What  should be the defining moment when you know enough is enough?

 It was just her. Alone and happy that way. She had seen the hell people have spoken of. She had picked the pieces of her shattered heart off the floor. She had stared into the emptiness of her reflection . Yet through it all she managed to pick herself up. By her own will. By her own strength. And she would be damned if anyone had the audacity to claim her victory for her. She didn't need any man. She didn't need toxic friends. Starting over fresh was the second chance she was given.

 Even though she had not had the best of luck with love, cupid still managed to butt into her life and chose her yet again to be victim of his cruel little love game. Little did she know the next couple of years would be nothing more than a punishment for all her wrong doings. It came in the most unexpected form. She would have no idea.....no idea.

  Lies. Broken promises. Sketchy behaviors and more lies. It wasn't like he was a good liar either. His lies were like tiny Lego pieces that when eventually added all together made quite a difference in what it was that was being made. She bought most of it for quite some time. Then slowly she started put the pieces together. She was a fool for love. Again.

 Her first love was a loser of course. An abusive asshole. The second was a man she put time and trust and much love into. He betrayed her,so she returned the favor. Of course he didn't take kindly to it,so he burned her at the stake,metaphorically speaking. Now they say third time's a charm. More like a cursed charm handed down by the devil himself, and cupid was his devilishly clever disguise.

   

 Manipulation always played its part . It was such a war on what was expected and wanted. He'd make promises and break them and claim responsibility for them. He always made it out to look like he was forced to do things,even though it was his word he had given. It was simple. Don't say you're going to do something, and not do it. Especially if you're willing to make that into a promise! No matter how many times her mind told her to depart and move on, this isn't good for you, her heart kept intervening telling her she loved him and cared. That he would change for her. That his lies would end. That he would make sacrifices for her,like she had done so for him.

 Silly girl. Well that silly girl is broken. Mentally. Physically tired and pained. She had wasted years of her life trying to pick herself up for the second time. She should have never fell to begin with. He knew where she came from. The hurt she lived through. The things that made her happy that she sacrificed for things she thought would make her happier. He betrayed her is what he did. How could she ever forgive him? There were more rough times than good,and the good times just weren't good enough to forgive him this time. She just wanted to give up.

 She had said all that needed to be said. She cried all the tears she could cry. Her care had run out and her love had run dry. The passion and trust were destroyed. She was left to pick herself up from this mess. Somehow she would have to find the strength within her to get up one more time,but could she? Where would she go?  Would anyone help her? Could anyone help her? Could she leave it all behind?

12 Words We Wish Would Go Away

Over the years a lot of crazy words have been added to the urban dictionary. Some were even so popular that we rolled out a little red carpet for them to enter the Webster's Dictionary. Some of those that you might know may include baby bump , bromance, party foul , cougar and hell, I don't even mind pwned or selfie for that matter. The last few years however, things have been getting out of hand. It's as if people will come up with just about anything to beat having to use proper words or spelling out complete words. It's kind of pathetic. I'm constantly looking up words to see what they mean because I'm always behind on all these words.  Here are 12 examples of these that don't seem to be going anywhere, anytime soon. Sadly.

1. Damp - Damp is an expression for when you want to say something is awesome. Example: That movie last night was so damp!  Why can't we just stick to saying it's awesome? Damp has it's own real meaning. Let's leave it that way.

2.Throwing Shade - Forever I thought this meant to brush something off or help someone when they are felling down. No. I was wrong. It means to give someone an attitude accompanied by a bitch face. Surprise surprise.

3.Fleek - I'll be honest, I really thought fleek was a group of particular animals. Maybe birds perhaps. Nope. Wrong again. It means when something is on point. Example:  Those shoes you bought are on fleek!

Stupid I know.

4.Bae - Danish word for poop. However people are so lazy that after leaving out the extra "b" it would take to complete the word, they tried to sound smart and make it an acronym for "before anyone else". We see what you did there.

5.Twerk - Sexually vibrating your hips and butt when getting low or bending over. This can be done fast or slow or even one butt cheek at a time. Now it's no secret we've been shaking our asses forever when dancing, but twerking has opened up a whole new wave of competitions and apparently one has to be skilled in proper " twerking". Who knew?

6.Guap - Means  simply lots of money,or to have lots of money. Example: I made guap this week at work.

7.Cray - Another one of those words where leaving out one letter of the word makes it ten times cooler. Cray is short for crazy. Can also be used as cray-cray. 

8.Turnt -  I'm sure by now everyone has heard the term "turn up". Well "turnt" is when you've gone over the limit when getting turning up,meaning you're drunk or passed out or out of control.

9.Dweet - Very similar to drunk dialing or texting while drunk. Sweet means "tweeting on twitter " while drunk. Big no no.

10. Ratchet - I found myself using this word ONE time when I was so infuriated with the way this ghetto chick was acting in front of everyone at the local Wal-Mart. Meaning: A hotmess, diva of lower socioeconomic status, tries to hard and thinks she is every mans dream. Quite a few of these out there and there are many names for them.

11. Dis ,Dat and Doe - This , that and though. That's the correct and ONLY way to spell and use these words. Come on now.

12.THOT - That how over there. This is one of those acronyms that are NEVER used properly anywhere. Example: "Stay away from those thots."

How does that sentence even make sense?!? Stay away from those that hoe over there ,with an extra s?! Have some friggin common sense people.

So in conclusion, I hate all of these words and so do a vast majority of people. There is an image of our generation that is being deteriorated because of ignorant beings who can't speak or write properly, let alone know how to act. Use the knowledge you were taught and maybe some basic schooling skills and hey, pick up a dictionary every once in awhile 

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10 Ways to Revamp Your Relationship

  Sometimes you're looking for new things to do for your significant other . Maybe sometimes things aren't so good and you need to find new ways to fix your relationship or change things up. I've gathered up 10 different ways that I believe can help bring your relationship back to life and keep you both happy for the long run.

1.Corny Nicknames                                                                                                                                           When my fiance and I first started dating, I thought ,"I have got to have a great nickname or code word for each other". Corny I know, but we came up with KROD, which is "Dork" backwards.Having nicknames or a secret word or phrase between each other can be fun,especially when no one but you two know what you're talking about.

                         

2.Surprise Romantic Dinner                                                                                                            Surprise your babe with their favorite meal. Set up the table with those candles put away in the closet and those champagne glasses you never use. Turn an average dinner night into a spicey "I'll see you later tonight" dinner.

3.Oils and Rubdowns                                                                                                                               Every once in a while my fiance and I will take turns giving each other massages (sometimes at the same time). I grab his liquid or lotion of choice ,and vice versa. Nothing like a good rub down here and there.

 

4.Compliments                                                                                                                                           Women never get tired of a good compliment. The same goes for men. Commit to trying to compliment your s.o. at least 2-3 times a day. Whether its on their looks or something small like a chore they finished,everyone enjoys a nice confident booster.

5.Random Gifts                                                                                                                                            Who says holidays are the only good reason for a gift? Show your appreciation by going out once a month or randomly picking up that hat your bf really likes or that adorable jewelry holder your gf just HAS to have. Random gifts show your love that they are thought of and deserve it.

6.Hidden Notes                                                                                                                                                   I once found 25 sticky notes that were left all over the house in random spots that said "I Love You". Leave a note on the mirror. On the fridge. Hide them in his/her lunch,drawer,car even in the shower. Perfect way to brighten your babes day.

7.The Couple that Games Together, Stays Together                                                                        Ever hear about the crazy gf that smashed her bf's game system because she thinks he's addicted to gaming. Or maybe the jealous girl who can't stand when he hangs with his bros all the time. Well, don't be her. Instead ,plop a seat down and invite yourself into the game or conversation. It shows you're making an effort and really,its not all that bad hanging with the guys. You might actually enjoy yourself.

8.Work Surprises                                                                                                                                       My fiance loves Butterfingers. I surprised him at work one day with a giant bag of them. Its no secret that men love food and that women love looking special in front of other people. Have a nice set of flowers delivered to her job. Send a nice food bouquet sent to his job. It could turn what was a crappy day at work into a not so bad day!

9.Affection                                                                                                                                                    You don't have to go overboard on the PDA. Simply holding hands or running your man/woman's back when you're out is enough. Nice random hugs or sweet kisses on the cheek or forehead go a long way. Be comfortable with each other and these actions,not just in public but at home.

10. Consideration                                                                                                                                          Be considerate of each others feelings. Don't make fun of each other or put each other down in front of other people. Don't make decisions based solely upon yourself. Try not to interrupt other when speaking and if there is to be venting or expression of frustration ,make sure you have enough self control to do it in moderation. Being selfish is among one of the biggest turn offs. Don't be a douche.

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I'm the New Gal

Introduction of Moi.

What more is there to say. This is an introduction after all right. So here goes nothing. My name is Shayla.I'm choosing to name my blog Blvd of Sparkled Dreams because after some research, most of everyone on the internet suggested you choose something cute,creative,and "catching". So that was the best I could come up with. Reason why I'm even here to begin with . Apparently according to my fiancé, I need to find a

 "hobby" to keep myself busy when he's busy...doing whatever hobby it is he has. Went online and researched hobbies (as if taking care of a child ,housework,and making my jewelry wasn't time consuming enough) blogging seem to be the number one choice. So here I am and here I'll stay (haha I totally just sang "Let it go" as I wrote that) so I guess you'll be hearing alot from me here now. I plan to document and share my cooking experiences, my life as a mommy,my adventures in diy projects,my relationship and occasionally some sad stuff or some funny stuff. Lets just start here and sew where it goes.

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